So, you want to lose
a few pounds, eat healthier, cook more, start a meditation or yoga
practice or feel more centered
and empowered this New Year, don’t you? Tis
the season for resolutions, but have you ever wondered why it is so hard to stick
to your goals after a couple of weeks go by? Could the solution be simply a
matter of HOW you approach your ambitions? Whatever your goal may be, here’s what you need to know about how to successfully
create lasting changes.
Pick Just One Goal
& Ask Yourself Why
Don’t go all or nothing on me and try to change everything
all at once. It won’t work and you’ll
soon be back at square one with nothing to show for yourself. After choosing one goal to work on, then ask
yourself why and what you are expecting to be different in your life with this
change. Be sure to write these down as experts
say connecting to what motivates you will help to create long-lasting change.
Make an Unquestionably
Achievable Goal
Another important piece of the behavior change puzzle is to ensure you have successes along the way. The changes and progress towards your goal
has to be small and attainable to build momentum and
self-efficacy. You have to be CERTAIN YOU CAN SUCCEED WIH
ZERO DOUBT in your mind. Otherwise you
will be setting yourself up for failure.
So if planning to cook more and eat healthier start simple and practical
and then build from there, as I promise you success is never built in a day.
In fact, Research shows
it takes 66-90 days to change a
behavior and 6 months or longer to master one.
So hold your horses and say good-bye to instant gratification.
Anticipate Failure,
Plan to Adapt & Revise as You Go
The path to reaching
your goals is never linear! And, the
more we can accept that we are not
perfect and that life will have some frustrations along the way, the greater we
help ourselves to rise up quicker
from our falls. It is perfectly normal
to have set backs and if you plan
for them and think about what you will do when they happen, you will have a
plan to forgive yourself and move on. Take
each obstacle as an opportunity to learn about yourself and don’t let it derail
you and your motivation.
Also, just as root vegetables have to find their way around
rocks and gravel to find nourishment and grow in the soil, know that along the
way you may need to change and adapt
your plan if you aren’t accomplishing what you originally had hoped. Perhaps you were too ambitious and need to
rethink a few things and doing so is perfectly ok.
Let me know what goals you are setting for the New Year and
chime in below. But remember to follow
these 3 steps to finally have what you want!